THE DANGER OF USING COMPLAINTS AS A MEANS OF ESCAPING RESPONSIBILITIES

Rev. Michael Benson Ajayi  

Num 13:32-33 “And they spread among the Israelites a bad report about the land they had explored. They said, "The land we explored devours those living in it. All the people we saw there are of great size. Num 14:2-4 NIV “All the Israelites grumbled against Moses and Aaron, and the whole assembly said to them, "If only we had died in Egypt! Or in this desert!  Why is the Lord bringing us to this land only to let us fall by the sword? Our wives and children will be taken as plunder. Wouldn't it be better for us to go back to Egypt?"  And they said to each other, "We should choose a leader and go back to Egypt."

     Faith always places a demand on us . It comes with responsibilities and faith without responsibilities is dead. Most persons have been made to believe miracles always comes easy and as such all one needs to do is pray , fast and wait and if nothing happens increase the fasting and the prayer until you receive your breakthrough . That is not always the case, the Israelites were promised a land flowing with milk and honey however, there were physical battles to fight, but they were not prepared  for them: they had gotten used to the concept of manna falling from the skies and Moses parting the red sea basically having someone else do the hard work, therefore, being told to fight for the possession of the promised land was alien to them and the easiest way to escape this was through complaints.

        There are families in distress  because of the complaints syndrome with spouses shying away from responsibilities because as children they were allowed by their parents to escape responsibilities. Most modern households would rather have servants wash the dishes of grown children as a show of love for such children. Sometimes, these house helps are of the same age of the children. The consequences of this action are that, these servants grow up to become responsible husbands and wives with long lasting marriages having been trained by their masters in the art of taking responsibilities. Ironically , the same cannot be said of the over-pampered children.             A lot of marriages have suffered shipwreck because of a complaining spouse. Complaints in a marriage could result in poverty, sexual malfunction and infidelity. Such behaviors are traceable to their childhood were complaints was an automatic ticket to escape responsibility.  It is not an acceptable parenting technique to allow a child have his or her way. This is common among mothers whom most children find easier to manipulate (because of their loving nature) and the repercussion is unpleasant   Prov 29:15 TLB “Scolding and spanking a child helps him to learn. Left to himself, he brings shame to his mother” . These children struggle to maintain stable families in their adulthood .

   Moses like most parents became weary of the constant complaints of the Israelites. Complaining is characteristic of the spiritually immature and usually an attempt to make others rescue us from our difficulties and help us escape responsibilities. We should learn how to be direct in communicating our desires without trying to manipulate people and be patient to listen and acknowledge the difficulty of the assignment at hand .We should not be quick to rescue people especially children from their responsibilities but encourage them to persevere till the assignment is fulfilled. It will make them fill good about themselves and this is how a great self esteem is developed. 

Prayer: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive grace for the completion of my assignments and projects in Jesus name.

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