TURN COMPLAINTS IN TO PROPHECIES FOR BREAKTHROUGHS (1)
By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi
" It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife. "
Proverbs 21:19
"Research from Stanford University has also found that complaining reduces the size of our hippocampus, which, is responsible for memory and problem solving. The study found that engaging in complaining or simply hearing someone complain for more than 30 minutes could physically damage our brains."
( M1Psychology. com )
" Chronic complainers often seem to have negative feelings about themselves, and complaining about their circumstances or other people makes them feel more important. This behavior could be caused by mental illnesses or personality disorders, or even childhood experiences that haven't been dealt with.' ( https://www.bemidjipioneer. com)
As a preacher for over three decades I have observed a pattern in cases where there are repeated fails in relationships in a given family with a research on Jacob's family ( Genesis 29 to Genesis 31) . The African church is quick to attribute it to the ancestral curses or so-called marine spirit but that is contrary to the scriptures (2Corinthians 5:17) . I also observed these persons tend to suffer fails in relationships after undergoing series of deliverance . This is mostly more with the women .
Whenever there is a program for deliverance, women tend to constitute the majority almost three to one male. Out of curiosity I began to make a biblical research
on this issue and my findings where as follows . The majority where from broken homes or homes where parents live with each other but seldom communicate with each other. In such homes there was no emotional ties between the parents.
Secondly, there a strong maternal influence on the children. Most of those interviewed disliked there fathers because of offences of fathers against their mothers . Most Nigerian musicians have songs dedicated to their mothers and almost none to their fathers by reason of unsolved bitterness against their fathers.
Thirdly, persons with contentious complaining tendencies prefer to attend churches were death of one's enemies ,judgment, condemnation, guilt and sorrow was promoted over prayers and preaching on love for one's neighbor . They prefer harsh treatment of the body through fastings vigils over reconciliation and repentance. A lady once requested that we pray for the death of her father because he neglects her mum. When I refused and requested we pray for his salvation she quit church.
Fourthly, these persons find it hard to express love. The word 'LOVE' is so difficult to pronounce and amazingly they demand love and care from their partners and others . .
Fifthly they are emotional spenders - spending makes them happy and their homes are filled with things that are of no use including academic certificates all in a bid to feel loved ,they often spend more than they earn .
Lastly , they have little passion for deep research into God's word .
Prayer Heavenly father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the holy Spirit and stability of mind in Jesus name
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