SEX IS A PRECIOUS GIFT FROM GOD

By Rev. Michael Benson Ajayi
Proverbs 27:7" The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.".
      The scriptures describes the sexual experience as being sweet as an honeycomb (SS4:11)It is best when pursued as an adventure .The absence of adventure in the sexual relations between married folks opens the door to infidelity. Marital sexual adventure should be all encompassing ,it is spiritual, emotional and physical. At inception of a relationship ,married persons are usually more adventurous in their sexual relationship but progressively  their hearts become overwhelmed with the demands of life thus destroying the fire of adventure and as a result sex becomes a monotonous  assignment and painful liability. We are admonished to be free of anxiety and to develop healthy prayer lives (Phil.4:6). We need great faith in God's word for a great sexual experience with our spouses.
          The enemy recognizes the need for adventure and offers it to married couples in the form of inappropriate (unsustainable and dishonorable  ) sexual fantasies.  The scriptures says in  Proverbs 5:3" For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:" The 'stranger' is that person willing to participate in an illicit sexual affair with a married person.God condemns this in its entirety. The scriptures says in Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
         The lack of adventure in sex by married couples destroys intimacy in a relationship and leads to frustrations. Many resort to using sex toys  and pornography as alternatives but this only leads to an amplification of the sense of loneliness, insecurity and lack of intimacy. Masturbation destroys intimacy in  marriages , it quenches the yearning for the presence of one's spouse.  Sexual hunger is designed to humble married couples to the point of not being ashamed to ask for forgiveness in the event of an offense in other to keep enjoying the benefits of sex . Sexual hunger is a binding agent between the married (Gen.30:15-16) and adds value to the relationship. It is so strong that persons with healthy lifestyles tend to look alike . Masturbation destroys this and promotes unforgiveness, bitterness, depression, emotional poverty, drug abuse, arrogance and presumptuousness which is the bane of many a failed marriage.Chronic addicts of masturbation are often insensitive to the emotional needs of their spouse and any form of self-sexual  stimulation which involves imagining one having sex with someone other than one's marriage partner dishonours God who sees our hearts ,it is the beginning of infidelity in marriage, the scriptures says in Matthew 5:28" But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Sex is of the heart as much as with the body. Adultery isn't only when the physical sexual acts takes place.
            The cure for infidelity,depression , sicknesses,poverty, lack of zeal to serve God and many other emotionally- based diseases common among married folks is sufficient sex with one's marriage partner . The scriptures says in  Proverbs 27:7 "The full soul loatheth an honeycomb; but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet." a sexually satisfied soul is irritated at the sexual advances of strangers but a deprived soul will settle for a bitter relationship with an outsider as long as the sexual need is being met. Cheats do so to quench a hunger, it is never out of love. Love is pure and not self seeking.
      Sex is a duty like any other that must be fulfilled between married persons. It is more important than lunch,breakfast and dinner. (1Cor.7:3)Better to be a failure in the kitchen than in sex. Married persons are joint  owners of their bodies (1Cor7:4) and a sex toy can never be compared to a human being, their usage leads to bitterness .Couples should not be ashamed or too proud to talk about sex daily.The more they talk about it ,the more exciting it is.
      For the purpose of fasting and prayer married persons may refrain from sex (1Cor.7:5) however, nobody should starve their partners sexually in the pursuit of ministry, that opens the door to sexual immorality and gives Satan the advantage over that ministry (1Cor.7:5) ministers of the gospel  should carry their spouses along to ensure that this very important aspect of their marriage is fulfilled. It is better to have a happy family and sexually fulfilled life than a large ministry .Ministry is about healing marriages, A large ministry with a high  divorce rate does not honour God  Mal2:16 says God hates divorce in his church. We are admonished to find sexual satisfaction in our spouse (Prov. 5:18-20) sex is sex just as water is water regardless of the container in which it's found :therefore, having multiple sexual partners is a chasing after the wind.
      Prayer : Heavenly Father forgive me for my sins against you, I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation, I receive him as lord and saviour and receive grace for chastity and honour in my relationships in Jesus' name
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