HOW SUCCESSFUL WOMEN SABOTAGE THEIR LOVE LIFE (PART 1)

     No matter how terrible a relationship God can fix it if we are willing . A Research by The New York Times reveals  that women are less likely to loose  their jobs than men and are, in many households, becoming the primary breadwinner. While this is a positive thing for women’s financial independence, some experts say there are adverse effects on their relationships. “Recent changes in economic forces and increasing education achievements of women have led to a change in the last decade, with women increasingly earning more than their husbands. This can become a challenge to the roles of ‘husband’ and ‘wife,’” says Scott Haltzman, MD, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women. Here are symptoms that your success is sucking the love out of your love life, and how to make this role reversal work for—rather than against—your union.

Symptom: He’s Not Initiating Intimacy
Not being the primary provider, or getting laid off, can be a blow to his ego—and his manhood.
Remedy: Reassure him that he’s contributing to your household. “Men tend to be action-oriented, so point out the ways his actions have an impact on your life,” says Dr. Haltzman. Tell him how much bringing in the groceries, or helping your daughter with algebra, helps you—and don’t forget to compliment him in bed. If a down mood is preventing him from leading the way into the bedroom, nudge him. “You can start the process by dropping a hint such as a text message on the way home from work,” suggests Dr. Haltzman. Then, allow him to take charge.
Symptom: You’re Too Tired for Sex
After getting the kids dressed for school, working a 10-hour day and prepping dinner, some prime-time viewing is the only entertainment on your wish list.
Remedy: Schedule some couple time into your calendar. “Have a conversation about times to spend nurturing this relationship,” advises Delaware area–based sex therapist Debra Laino, DHS, MED, MS. She suggests a planned date night, or even just a few hours you plan to spend naked each week...and see what happens. A great relationship is built on  understanding, knowledge and wisdom , this was the marriage secrets of the women of old , the scriptures says in 1 Peter 3:4-5 TLB"Be beautiful inside, in your hearts, with the lasting charm of a gentle and quiet spirit that is so precious to God. That kind of deep beauty was seen in the saintly women of old, who trusted God and fitted in with their husbands' plans." 
May your love life wax stronger and sweeter as you read this now in Jesus name. 


 Credits :  Amy Levin -Epstein