HOW TO SECURE A RELATIONSHIP AGAINST FAILURE

By  Rev. Michael Benson Ajayi

 Isaiah 60:3-4 NKJV “The Gentiles shall come to your light, And kings to the brightness of your rising. "Lift up your eyes all around, and see: They all gather together, they come to you;”

             Jesus said we are the light of the world and salt of the earth Matt5:13-14. Light exposes the beauty and salt the essence of creation .The second verse of Isaiah 60 says “darkness shall cover the earth, And deep darkness the people;” this darkness is the confusion in the world that’s as a result of the lack of love in the world. The world is in chaos as a result of the absence of unconditional love. What the world practices is a type of love that is conditional; this is deficient in so many ways and results in a lack of commitment in relationships.

            It is the lack of commitment in the world that is behind the increase in the rate of insecurity globally. It takes a heart that’s rooted in God’s kind of faith to overcome the fear of failure which is the reason why many cannot totally commit to a relationship. We have been taught that love is all that is needed to sustain a relationship but from all indication even the best of friends in a relationship find it hard to live together, they’d rather love each other but from a distance, the reason being that love isn’t sufficient enough to sustain a relationship; we need faith in God and in each other. This faith is born out of an understanding of the word of God. The home that is built on love alone cannot stand the test of time because the human experience of love is temporal and gives no room for chastening (Heb 12:6-11) ;  this is the reason why more lives are lost every year because of love than any other cause in the world. We are suspicious over those who truly love us.

        The scriptures say in Prov 24:3-4 NKJV “Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches.” There are three major ingredients needed to sustain a home, they are namely, wisdom, understanding and knowledge. They are obtained through God’s word. Love is the reward of a life of wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Unfortunately most persons have put the pursuit of love above these indispensable ingredients and become easy prey to emotional predators. Practicing love without these three qualities is an invitation to disaster.   

               The unconditional love of God is shared through the heart of God’s people and it gives illumination to this dark world. This type of love is logical and works with the human conscience; it is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. In summary, it says “If you love someone, you will be loyal to him or her no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him or her, always expects the best of him or her, and always stand your ground in defending him or her”(TLB  1 Cor 13:4-7) . These are the qualities the scriptures in Isaiah60:3-4 says attracts the world to the Church. This is what the world yearns for, but unfortunately what is displayed in our churches is religious entrepreneurship based on selfish capitalistic marketing strategies used by the world’s system. This is behind the poverty in the world and that is why religious folks tend to be very selfish in relationships. Let the world see the light of love through you that your heavenly Father may be glorified (Matt5:16). Kings await you.  

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