REJECTION DOES NOT MEAN YOU AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH


By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 
John 15:25 NKJV “But this happened that the word might be fulfilled which is written in their law, 'They hated Me without a cause.”
         Jesus is all good and all benevolent, He was and is the true  replica of God’s divine nature, He couldn’t be faulted in character. His ministry on earth is well summarized in   Acts 10:38 “And you know that God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Spirit and with power. Then Jesus went around doing good and healing all who were oppressed by the devil, for God was with him”. Despite these qualities He was rejected by many and till date He is hated by many.
          Rejection happens to the best of men and it isn’t necessary any fault of theirs. Man has so many ways of venting  frustrations and one of them is through rejection. We are gregarious by nature therefore there is always a fundamental need to be part of a social group. Rejection hampers our desire to ‘belong’. This disconnection often leads to emotional trauma which if not properly managed could be detrimental to our well-being. Rejection creates a sense of loneliness that may lead to one concluding that we are not loved. In other to cushion the effect of the pain, we are often tempted to lower are standards and sometimes commit ourselves to persons who do not truly love us. Many lives have been lost as a result of this fatal error. For some persons rejection leads to rage and a propensity to be violent to others and a desire to walk on the “wild side” of life. Rejection lives a dent on our self-esteem and reacting with self-abuse further deepens the effect of rejection living us feeling more lonely and depressed.  
                      Judas Iscariot was one of Jesus’ disciples but from all indications he was not truly committed to Jesus (John13:2-26), he was double-minded, arrogant and presumptous this made it difficult for him to fit- in to the fold of the disciples thus he began to feel rejected . This was all the enemy needed for him to be used as a tool in betraying Jesus , which he eventually did and committed suicide out of depression and overwhelming guilt. Self-blame is very destructive when dealing with depression. If the rejection is short- termed as in the case of excommunication or having to go through rehabilitation for an abusive behaviour, quickly coming to terms with your condition and recognizing that despite your situation God’s love for you has not changed (Romans8:33-39) while taking advantage of the loving care of loved ones and any other available emotional support system ,is an easy way to be on the path of recovery from the pain of rejection.       
          There is the rejection that is as a result of the irreconcilable differences between believers in Christ and non believers; Jesus said in Matt 10:34-35 NIV.. “I did not come to bring peace, but a sword." The sword as mentioned here is used figuratively to mean a bitter separation between those who believe in Him and those opposed to Him. Despite the chasm, believers in Christ are at peace with the heavenly Father by grace through faith in Christ (Rom. 5:1) therefore, seeking to impress God by carnal religious means will only make a man more melancholic :man-made religion cannot give peace because oneness with God can’t be attained through the rituals of religion (Heb10:1). Though the scriptures enjoins that we pursue peace with all men (Hebrews12:24) it also tells us of the possibility of being rejected because of our holy stand with God . We should not be deterred by this but resolve to keep teaching the gospel for this is the will of God for us with rewards (Jn15:16).    
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