ADD VALUE AND SECURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH APPRECIATION

By Rev. Michael Benson Ajayi

Matt 25:21 NIV "His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share in your master’s happiness!”

          The kingdom of God has a reward system by the appreciation of faithful stewardship. It is recognition of the sterling qualities and value or relevance of stewards in God’s vineyard. Jesus’ statement ‘share in your master’s happiness’ underscores the fact that the degree of happiness experienced by stewards

is a function of the level of appreciation received.  

         The bible is replete with instances when Jesus expressed His gratitude by giving credit to whom it was due with the intention of bringing out the best out of people. In Mathew 15:22-28 Jesus showed appreciation to the Canaanite woman for her understanding of the principle of grace through a manner that many would have found offensive. In it, he likened her to a dog, a metaphor for those who were not part of the household of God. Her acknowledgment of His divinity and boundless grace to humanity led to the fulfillment of her heart’s desire. Matt 15:28 NIV says “Then Jesus answered, "Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted." And her daughter was healed from that very hour.”  In another instance, Jesus praised an unjust steward for displaying wisdom while on the verge of losing his job ( Luke 16:8a)

           Appreciation has a rebounding effect by adding value to relationships. Spouses who consciously and sincerely appreciate each other for kind deeds done tend to add value to their relationships through this and are most likely to enjoy each other’s company more often.

                We receive positive appraisals when we invest our talents and resources in others for the purpose of the furtherance of the message of the gospel (luke12:37).The early church prospered through the symbiotic  relationship that existed between them and their teachers .There are times when you need to talk to a teacher when faced with complicated issues. It is for this reason that God promised to give us teachers and just as it is in circular schools we have to support their work for our sake as stated in Gal 6:6 AMP “ Let him who receives instruction in the Word [of God] share all good things with his teacher [contributing to his support].”

        Apostle Paul commended the Philippians for their support and said they were partakers of the  grace of God upon him by virtue of their contributions to the work of ministry. This brought about extraordinary breakthroughs among church members. There is mutual edification when we assist each other Phil 1:7 AMP … “because you have me in your heart and I hold you in my heart as partakers and sharers, one and all with me, of grace (God's unmerited favor and spiritual blessing). [This is true].. when I am out in the defense and confirmation of the good news (the Gospel).”

        God wants us to show appreciation to others, this is important in building human capacity. Staff perform better when they receive commendations from their bosses once in a while; the same also applies in marital relationships especially children. Children who are raised under such environment grow up to become great citizens and spouses.  We shouldn’t be only known for pointing out faults without giving commendations whenever necessary (Prov 31:30). Everybody has some good virtue in them and when they are recognized and appreciated, it leads to a radical live transformation and sets the stage for social reorientation. The scriptures say in proverbs.   

    We should never seize to give God thanks for His goodness and mercy towards us (Psalm 103:2) this is a faith booster that results in extraordinary breakthroughs.     As you read this receive grace for added value to your relationships in Jesus name.  

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