YOUR TONGUE CAN EITHER BUILD OR DESTROY YOUR HOME

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi
Mark 11:23 "For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith"
       Jesus was standing on the mount of olives near Jerusalem when He made this statement ( Mark 11:1).  When He spoke of a mountain, it was literally, He was referring to the mountain of olives. He wanted the disciples to know the power inherent in a person's tongue. The human tongue determines the course of a person's destiny: we are where we are now because of words spoken in the past and our future will to a large extent be determined by what we are saying and what is being said in our behalf now.
         Words determine the mood and peace in a home, that's why we are enjoined to fill our mouths with words of grace that edify the hearers. This is also important in crisis management and dispute resolution.  The scriptures says in Proverbs 15:1 AMP" A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger" also in Proverbs 25:15 AMP "By long forbearance and calmness of spirit a judge or ruler is persuaded, and soft speech breaks down the most bone-like resistance. " thousands of Christian marriages and relationships are destroyed everyday by the manner of communication, when the tongue is unbridled, it's effect can be devastating. We should learn to respond to each other in a soft tone. Words of wisdom  are more pleasant to listen to when well spoken. The message of the gospel may fall on deaf ears when spoken in a manner that dishonours the hearers. Likewise,  when a spouse is spoken to in a condescending manner its effect will be counterproductive in a marriage or relationship. Proverbs 16:24 AMP says  "Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body."
         Day to day transactions drains the soul and  the home is meant to be a place of rest that should be filled with healthy, wholesome materials for the rejuvenation of drained souls. The most effective of this is the tongue from a loved one speaking words of wisdom in line with whatever one is going through,  the scriptures says in Proverbs 15:4 AMP "A gentle tongue [with its healing power] is a tree of life, but willful contrariness in it breaks down the spirit." it also says in Proverbs 16:24 AMP "Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body." The worlds entertainment lacks these ingredients therefore  its an exercise in futility in trying to joy and peace from the world's system.
           The tongue of a wise spouse should be a reservoir of wisdom,  Proverbs 10:11 AMP says "The mouth of the [uncompromisingly] righteous man is a well of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence." the scriptures teaches that when a married man or woman is devoid of wisdom, they plan violent schemes against their spouses: this is the origin of spousal abuse..
           A marriage is preserved by the words that emanates from the parties concerned, Proverbs 14:3 AMP "In the fool's own mouth is a rod [to shame] his pride, but the wise men's lips preserve them." the power to work in divine favour dwells in the tongue of godly spouses that's why the scriptures says whomever finds a wife,  finds a good thing and obtains favour of the lord (Proverbs 18:22) ; godly women declare God's favour upon their families daily, Proverbs 31:26 says "She openeth her mouth with  wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness." The power to make progress or be stagnant is in what we say about our families daily. Through, the knowledge of God's word,  we know the appropriate word to speak in every situation in other to receive the desired results ( Proverbs 10:32) When spoken under the right circumstance, God's word can make a person strong Isaiah (35:3,4). A wise spouse knows how to speak a word in season to the weary (Isaiah 50:4) so if a spouse comes home with a retrenchment letter due to downsizing, instead of being hysterical and demoralized she or he  would say " don't worry honey",  Phil  4;19 says "God will supply our need according to His riches in glory " everything will be fine, we are surrounded by divine favour (Psalm 5:12) and the lord is our shepherd, we shall not lack (Psalm23:1)
          Silence is a virtue that's  saves us from crisis (1Thess 4:11) seeking to voice out all that's in our mind when offended does more harm than good (Proverbs 29:11,15:2) the first person to quit speaking in a heated argument earns more respect (Prov20:3) because there's never a winner in any argument between loved ones, we compliment each other and do not compete with each other. One person can't be wrong and the other right in a relationship. We are one body.
       We should serve as guards over our utterances (Psalm141:3) because marital infidelities and other failures first proceeds out of the mouth before they actually occur , same with foolishness ( Matthew 15:18) and the spread of all form of deadly diseases (2Tim2:16,17) better to invest more in the awareness of the healing power of the Holy Ghost than in a disease awareness campaign. Homes where talebearers are welcomed experience adverse medical conditions that defy medicines (Proverbs.26:22,25:18) the words from an angry spouse destroys the body organs of family members (Prov.12:18a) . Medical bills could be drastically reduced if we control our tongues with God's word.Most of what we claim to be attacks from witches and wizards are nothing but self-afflicted wounds from speaking evil (prov.11:9,18:21), when spouses hate each other, their words destroy each other (Matt.12:35b). There is nothing as powerful as saying "I love you" to one's spouse.
     If young spinsters and bachelors will spend 10% of what is invested on houses,cars, parties etc on the development of a healthy way of speaking, they'll do better maritally. Corrupt ,evil and  foul language makes a beautiful woman stink and drives away godly suitors( Ecclesiastes 10:1.1cor.15:33, Col.4:6)) leads to the destruction of relationships (prov.10:14b,prov13:3b,psalm109:17-20) and opens the door for demonic oppression (prov.18:7,prov 12:13a).
As you read this now, receive grace for control over your tongue and the reversal of every self-afflict ted damage to your family in Jesus name.
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