CONTROL OVER DESTRUCTIVE SEXUAL TENDENCIES


Rev. Michael Benson Ajayi
       “That each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable”.  1Thes. 4:4.
  Sex is a gift from God for pleasure and procreation ; the abuse of sex brings about dishonour in our relationships and the distortion of God's plan for our lives.
 Scriptural terms used for unacceptable sexual acts describing the intensity of its evil include the following:
      Defraud (GK pleonekteo) which means to deny another of the moral chastity and purity by arousing sexual desires  which cannot be righteously fulfilled in order to satisfy one’s own self-centered sexual desires.  (1Thes. 4:6; Eph. 4:19).
      Fornication  (GK porneia).  It’s any intimate sexual activity outside marriage, involving    touching of the erogenous parts of the body or viewing the nakedness of another person .1 Cor. 6:18, Lev. 20:11, 12-21. 1Thes. 4:3,
     Lust (GK epithumia) is having an immoral sexual craving for someone or thing, which one would fulfill if the opportunity arose. Eph. 4:19,22, 1Pet. 4:3, 2Pet. 2:18..  Sexual immorality leads to destruction of businesses, marriages and lawlessness in society and true morality is a sustainable private righteous lifestyle known only by God.
       Lasciviousness  (GK aselgeia)  is the unreserved display of sexual overtures or play without boundaries with an inclination towards arousing and participating in sinful lust as in sexual orgies (,Gal. 5:1; Eph. 4:19; 1Tim 2:9 ,1Pet, 4:3, 2Pet. 2:2, 18)
      A person cannot truly repent of sexual sins until he or she is convinced beyond reasonable doubt about the evil behind them. The world’s media often paints a lovely picture about sexual sins and unfortunately many Christians have bought into the idea of sex without a loving sustainable commitment ;this is against God's purpose. The first thing sexual sin does to a person is the destruction of his or her faith in God’s word replacing it with overwhelming fear and guilt with a low self esteem. Without faith, a person loses passion for God and willfully separates from godly community of believers . Couples who tolerate sexual sins  find it difficult to honour each other ,rebellion is common in such relationships . It is the reason behind the battle for supremacy between married persons.
       Secondly, sexual sins triggers a chain reaction of negative emotions. The scriptures describes this chain reaction in  Gal 5:19-21 Mssg “It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community.” it is behind the proliferation of magic-show churches devoid of Christian character. 
        The easiest way to overcome sexual sins is by refusing to entertain the thought of it (keep away from sexually explicit materials )  by dealing with every root of bitterness in your heart.Cheap sex is an easy fix for the hurting (Heb.12:15-16) ,that's when we are most vulnerable. You may need to work away from a discussion on cheap sex ;do not  entertain it. Reject Satan’s thought by praying aloud “I command the voice suggesting sexual immorality to be silent in Jesus name for my body is the temple of God’s Holy Spirit” Secondly , memorize scriptures that speak against sexual sins ,like [Hebrews13:4,1cor.6:13,18,] thirdly , fast at least once a week , fourthly , take  the holy communion  as often as possible and ask the lord  to help you overcome filthy thoughts replacing them with righteous ones (Phil.4:8) , fifth, pornography should be a no - go area to you and avoid porn addicts (psalm1:1-2),Married persons should be accountable to and spend quality time with their spouses. Sixth ,be accountable to a matured christian and make sure you have well defined boundaries in your relationship with persons of the opposite sex, seventh, do not skip church meetings (Hebrews 10:25)  and above all  trust God to keep you from falling.
Prayer : Heavenly Father forgive me for my sins against you, I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my, I receive him as lord and saviour and receive grace to overcome temptation.
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