MAINTAINING HARMONY IN THE FAMILY IN TIMES OF CRISIS

  

"He must manage his own family well, having children who respect and obey him. For if a man cannot manage his own household, how can he take care of God’s church?" 1 Timothy 3:4‭-‬5 NLTBible 

    The Bible defines marriage as the union between a man and a woman and it is a gift from God designed for sexual pleasure ,mutual assistance , companionship and to create a healthy and safe environment where children will be raised into becoming servants of God. The family is a microcosm of the church and Jesus Christ. 

    Jesus Christ gave rules concerning the family . " In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself."Ephesians 5:28 NLT and " And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:21‭-‬22‭, ‬33 NLTBible 

   Married persons are expected to depend on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength to carry on with the duties of marriage . “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.' John 15:5 NLTBible . A fruitful marriage is that where members of the family are full of the fruits of the holy spirit namely: temperance, meekness, goodness, love,joy, long suffering , peace, gentleness ,faith (Galatians5:22)

  Many persons define marital fruitfulness along the line of having children, cars, houses ,money etc. This is the reason behind many unhappy homes. You can have all these and more in a marriage and yet be leaving in misery , confused and afraid of the unknown (Rev.3;17) 

 No two marriages are the same therefore a man ought to know how to run his family (1 Timothy 3:4‭-‬5 ) and treat his wife as equal constitutionally and spiritually but unique and different in administrative functions. Bible says we are heirs TOGETHER of the grace of life , (1Pet3:7) therefore, both deserve to be respected .  

  Spouses should ask the Lord to intensify their love for each other to the point of it being addictive  . " Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins."  1 Peter 4:8 NLTBible 

    Avoid arguments as much as possible (Phil2:14) , there is no winner in an argument between married persons. Arguments destroys the loving, friendly atmosphere in a marriage and leads to strife . Seek love because " Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.

"  Proverbs 17:9 NLTBible and "Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so stop before a dispute breaks out." Proverbs 17:14 NLTBible

    Arguments destroys the sexual desires of a man for his wife and vice versa , better to

be quiet and maintain your dignity " It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife."Proverbs 21:19 NLTBible  many persons have driven their spouses in to the alms of a wiser and stable lover  " A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands."Proverbs 27:15‭-‬16 NLT

 Arguments destroys the home. " A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.

" Proverbs 14:1‭ Husbands and wives are expected to pray for each other's jobs and businesses and avoid being too much of a financial burden to anyone (1Thessalonians 4:11) 

Prayer : Heavenly father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Ghost and power to build strong families in Jesus name. 

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