LOVE ISN'T SUFFICIENT ENOUGH TO KEEP A HOME

Rev.Michael Benson Ajayi
John 15:13 "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down  his life for his friends."
   There is a remarkable difference  between what the world generally considers as love and what the word of God says love is. While the world defines it as compassion for self and for someone from which there is a derivable benefit, biblical love goes beyond passion: it is sacrificial   ; ironically, more persons perish as a result of love daily than any other reason globally.
       The origin of wars are traceable to a person trying to demonstrate affection for someone else .In judges 15 , Samson declared war against the Philistines because his father in-law refused to allow him have sex with his Philistine wife  . Most men live their lives with a 'conquest' mentality and are driven by the desire to impress a woman. Adam ate the forbidden fruit not because he was deceived but because he wanted to please Eve, when he was confronted by God he confessed in Gen.3:12 "And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat." likewise there are men who are engaged in illegality all in a bid to prove an unrealistic point to a woman. We seek for love through our achievements and it’s the reason behind the conflicts the world over.
        This way of thinking places so much pressure on men who position themselves as the source for the fulfillment  of their spouses’  emotional, physical and financial needs , failure to do so is disastrous and leads to bitter strife   ( James 4:1) This is the reason behind so many failed relationships .God should be our sole source of sustenance . We are sustained by His mercy. This perspective of viewing life  is the key to breaking the yoke of prolonged marital delays among singles in the church, (Isaiah 4:1 )

        Love cannot function in the absence of faith and faith comes by hearing God’s word, and unfortunately couples are spending lesser time on God’s word.   It is therefore, incongruous to think that one can truly love a spouse without the faith that comes from the knowledge of God's word. Most couples will quit their marriages if they had the opportunity to, this is the fallout of the neglect of God’s word (Hosea4 :6)
           Love places a demand on the lover that can only be met by faith, without which those who depend on us soon become a painful liability.  That's why men soon quit their marriages for no rational reason . The scriptures teaches that God’s kind of love requires living a sacrificial life for one's partner and family, it is because of the inherent risk involved in making such a degree of commitment that we need wisdom which can only be obtained through God's word. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8AMP" Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails.."this is the commitment we make whenever we say we love someone.
          It was the driving force behind Jesus' earthly ministry ,the scriptures says in Matthew 14:14 Jesus...was moved with compassion..." We should be guided by the law of love which says in Luke 6:31 AMP "And as you would like and desire that men would do to you, do exactly so to them"   Prayer /counseling +234 80 3553 6911,+234 80 9853 6911: email: michaelbensonajayi@gmail.com